Class and Grace is Still In? Awaken Your Mind to It!

This is sad, but true. Many of us women do not know our worth. This is the truth.

Many of us think that showing off our bodies, exploiting ourselves to unworthy individuals, and displaying our sacred fruits makes us important or wanted. NO!

Your body and forbidden fruits DO NOT QUANTIFY your worth. Ladies understand that your brains and the beauty of your heart are more important than your outer beauty.Respect comes when you respect yourself and understand that there is a fine line between sexy with confidence, and inappropriate and low self-esteem.

A woman who knows her worth does not devalue herself for the attention or the affections of anyone. A woman who knows her worth knows that her inner beauty, heart, skills, brains coupled with her outer beauty will attract people. Your body is just one part of who you are. It is not your whole personality. Do not make your body so important that you ignore or forget who you really are, or create your confidence solely based on your body. Do not brainwash yourself to think that the only and best thing about you, is your body, That is not true.

A woman who knows her worth does not need validation from anyone. She does not need a nod, or a compliment for she knows within herself that she is beautiful, and wonderful. She does not need others to confirm this for her. She knows that she shines.A woman that knows her worth, does not objectify herself. She does not entertain degradation. She has created within herself a plateau of grace and class.

You are worth more than facebook likes on your body. You are worth more than having your whole body exposed for cat calls. You are worth more than being grabbed by a man. You are worth more than being told you are sexy.

We women all want to attract people who care about us for who we are. We all want to attract people who see the value in us, and love us genuinely. We do not want to attract people with ill intentions or who have their own agendas at mind.

Your womans liberation or freedom does not have to mean you have to lose your self-worth or respectability. Know that you are beautiful, amazing and have value outside of the baring of your flesh. You are a beautiful, worthy woman. Believe it ascend into it. ~Know Your Worth~ -M. Millie

Every woman has been a whore before. Huh!

A woman told me today that every woman has been a whore some time in her life. I was shocked, but I asked her to explain. She stated that every woman some time in her life has given her body and her emotions to at least one man or a few men who did not deserve her jewels or affections. She stated that every woman has at a time body and heart has been played with by a man who did not cherish them or see their value.

I can agree that many women have made the mistake of being involved sexually and emotionally with a man that did not know their worth, or truly care for them. Many of us have had negative experiences with men, when we were young, naive, or inexperienced. Some of us have been betrayed, lied to, etc. However, as I told this woman, I do not think making a mistake with a man one time or a few times makes you a whore. It makes the woman trusting, naive. It makes the woman, someone who made a mistake.

I think that a woman spreading your body around without care to who is receiving it, and what emotional, physical and mental wear doing so could do to you, makes a woman who does not have understanding of her worth and virtue. I do not believe that woman should call themselves whores. We are not whores.

We may make mistakes in who we give our bodies and love to. We may think that our worth is encapsulated in our sex, when it is not. We may be expressing our sexual freedom and appetites. However, the degradation used with words such as whore need to stop. We need to stop giving words power to control us, and shame us. We need to pinpoint the real issues in our lives and that we experience and solve them. Before we resort to bashing others and ourselves.

Most importantly we women, we black women need to initiate our worth, and that we deserve love and greatness from our spouses. The lesson of knowing your worth must not only be taught, but it should be learned and practiced. Once we know our worth and what we should tolerate and accept less mistakes will be made, and less tears will be shed. ~Know Your Worth~ -M. Millie

Are you a Queen or a Bad Bitch? Your choice.

BITCH!!! Who are you calling a bitch? I am not a bitch. I am a Black Woman. I am a woman of immense worth. I am a Queen!

I have never understood why the word bitch has been used to describe women. I am not a female dog. I do not care how unreasonable or annoying I may be at the time. Calling me a female dog is the ultimate disrespect to me. Now, many women have done what many have tried to do with the N- word. Many women now have tried to change the negative meaning and connotations associated with the word bitch. They have embraced the word bitch as a positive word or compliment. They now call themselves “bad bitches.” This word is supposed to be a way of them complementing themselves. I guess “bad bitch” is supposed to mean hot or sexy.

What happened to just saying I am hot and sexy? Why are we getting the name for a female dog added to the way we compliment ourselves and each other. I am sorry to break it to you ladies, but calling yourself a bad bitch is calling yourself a bad female dog. I do not get it ladies.

I would never call myself a bad bitch. I would also never disrespect my fellow black women by calling them a bitch, or compliment them by calling them a bad bitch. It is a hateful word that has for years been used to disseminate misogyny, hate and the degradation of women. Why use a word built on so much hate to compliment yourself? Think about it ladies. it does not add up.

The adjectives, I use to describe myself are beautiful, intelligent, determined, motivated, queen who believes in herself and knows her worth.

Ladies, you deserve to be respected by all. You also need to know how to respect yourself. There are far more respectful ways for you to compliment yourself, for others to compliment you and for you to compliment others. Describe yourself the way you should be and present your beauty as one solidified on knowing you are worth respect and good treatment. -M. Millie