Class and Grace is Still In? Awaken Your Mind to It!

2-chainz-birthdayThis is sad, but true. Many of us women do not know our worth. This is the truth.

Many of us think that showing off our bodies, exploiting ourselves to unworthy individuals, and displaying our sacred fruits makes us important or wanted. NO!

Your body and forbidden fruits DO NOT QUANTIFY your worth. Ladies understand that your brains and the beauty of your heart are more important than your outer beauty.Respect comes when you respect yourself and understand that there is a fine line between sexy with confidence, and inappropriate and low self-esteem.


A woman who knows her worth does not devalue herself for the attention or the affections of anyone. A woman who knows her worth knows that her inner beauty, heart, skills, brains coupled with her outer beauty will attract people. Your body is just one part of who you are. It is not your whole personality. Do not make your body so important that you ignore or forget who you really are, or create your confidence solely based on your body. Do not brainwash yourself to think that the only and best thing about you, is your body, That is not true.

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A woman who knows her worth does not need validation from anyone. She does not need a nod, or a compliment for she knows within herself that she is beautiful, and wonderful. She does not need others to confirm this for her. She knows that she shines.A woman that knows her worth, does not objectify herself. She does not entertain degradation. She has created within herself a plateau of grace and class.

You are worth more than facebook likes on your body. You are worth more than having your whole body exposed for cat calls. You are worth more than being grabbed by a man. You are worth more than being told you are sexy.

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We women all want to attract people who care about us for who we are. We all want to attract people who see the value in us, and love us genuinely. We do not want to attract people with ill intentions or who have their own agendas at mind.

Your womans liberation or freedom does not have to mean you have to lose your self-worth or respectability. Know that you are beautiful, amazing and have value outside of the baring of your flesh. You are a beautiful, worthy woman. Believe it ascend into it. ~Know Your Worth~ -M. Millie



Latasha Harlins: A name you should know!


Today is the anniversary of the death of Latasha Harlins. Latasha Harlins was a 15 year old girl who was killed wrongfully by a Korean store owner Soon Ja Du. Harlins was accused of stealing, when she actually intended to pay for her beverage. Her death along with the beating of Rodney King was one of the reasons for the L.A. Riots. Everyday is Black History.

Du said she  observed Harlins putting a bottle of orange juice in her backpack. Police say that Du erroneously concluded Harlins was attempting to steal, evidently not seeing the money Harlins was holding. Du attempted to grab Harlins by the sweater and snatched her backpack. Harlins then struck Du with her fist three times, knocking Du to the ground. After Harlins backed away, Du then threw a stool at her. Harlins then picked up the orange juice that dropped during the scuffle, threw it on the counter and turned to leave. Du reached under the counter to retrieve a handgun, then fired at Harlins from behind at a distance of about three feet and shot her in the back of her head, killing her instantly. Du’s husband, Billy Heung Ki Du, heard the shot and rushed into the store. After speaking to his wife, who asked for whereabouts of Harlins before fainting, he dialed 911 to report an alleged holdup. Harlins died with $2 in her left hand.

Du later testified that she acted in self defense, for she feared for her life. However, her testimony was contradicted by the statements of the two witnesses present at the time and the security camera video which showed her shooting Harlins in the back of the head as Harlins was attempting to leave the store. However, the Los Angeles police department ballistics expert report also found that the handgun Du used was altered in such a way that, compared to an ordinary handgun, much less pressure on the trigger was necessary to result in firing.

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Soon Ja Du (child killer)

On November 15, 1991, the jury, believing that Du’s shooting was fully within her control and she fired the gun voluntarily, found Du guilty of voluntary manslaughter, an offense that carries a maximum prison sentence of 16-years in prison. However, trial judge, Joyce Karlin sentenced Du five years of probation, four hundred hours of community service, and a $500 fine.

Judge Karlin suggested that there were mitigating circumstances. She stated, “Did Mrs. Du react inappropriately? Absolutely. But was that reaction understandable? I think that it was.” The judge added, “this is not a time for revenge…and no matter what sentence this court imposes Mrs. Du will be punished every day for the rest of her life.” The court also stated that Mrs. Du shot Ms. Harlins under extreme provocation and duress and probably would never commit a crime again. A state appeals court later unanimously upheld Judge Karlin’s sentence.

Do you see. A black child’s life being lost was upheld in court. It was upheld again twenty one years later when George Zimmerman was left free for killing Trayvon Martin. Her life was deemed worthless. She was not afforded privilege or protection. The death of Latasha Harlins over 20 years ago, shows how we still currently live in an America who does not punish or value the death of helpless black children or youth.


Her name has all, but faded from history, but we should never forget her name. No grievance, misdeed, or hate done to us should be forgotten. This little girls death like the death of Trayvon Martin, was wrong. It was unneeded. Harlins was viewed as a threat, when all she was trying to do was buy juice. History is not always triumphant. It is often sad, and full of hatred. The past helps us understand our present and have a glimpse into the future. There has been a constant progression of disregard for the lives of black youth and children in America. From the killing of Emmett Till, to Latasha Harlins, to Trayvon Martin and countless other innocent black children, America does not care. They show us the middle finger and the door when our black children are in need or have been hurt.

What do we do with this history. We mobilize to create change that will benefit us. We have to arm ourselves with the knowledge to oust this oppression and hatred. We have to know that all of us black men, women, children, elderly are targets. We have to be careful. We have to say, hey let’s stop accepting the scrapes of injustice, and protest and fight. The injustice of America does not change it just gets covered in subliminal and covert propaganda and lies. But, we have the knowledge. We know the past, we are living the present. Use it to build a safe future for you, and your families. Let the death of Latasha Harlins, not be in vain.

Her name is immortalized in the Tupac song “Keep Your Head Up.” Her name and face should be stitched in our hearts as a remainder that being black in America is a fight. A fight we all can survive if we fight, demand more, and keep the knowledge to overcome ever flowing.

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This is a great website that chronicles the abuses of black men, women and children by the police. I am not an advocate of violence or the racism of this article, but the information is great and grand. Check it out here


The Killing of an Innocent Black Woman!


I am very saddened by the death of Miriam Carey. She did not have to die. Her tires could have been blown out. This troubled mother died for no reason. Having a mental illness is not a crime, it is a disease. Washington cops acted cruelly and violently. Then, Congress wants to give the cops a standing ovation to justify the police’s actions. SMH! This young black woman, died for no reason. Yes, her acts were wrong, but was she armed? NO! Did she attack anyone? NO! From her actions it is clear she acted through mental illness, or a condition.

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The fact of the matter is that she is another dead black person in America and that means nothing. Her black skin does not give her the privilege a white person would have if they had acted as she did.  Where is the apologies to her family? Where is the apology to her daughter, who has now lost a mother because the police, a law enforcement agency that is trained on many tactics of dealing with people in distress could not find a better, less deadly way to subdue Miriam Carey.

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Cops executing Miriam Carey.


She had a history of mental illness, for she was given a mental evaluation because she thought President Obama was monitoring her and that she was a prophet. She also had an accident where she fell down and hurt herself. Shortly after while she was recovering in the hospital she learned of her pregnancy. Her boss even stated that she was a great employee until her accident, which led to the discovery of her pregnancy. He also stated that after she came back from her pregnancy she had changed and had to be let go. This woman had some problems, she was not a criminal.


Miriam Carey

Now, authorities are saying her actions made it seem like she was on a mission. They have searched her home for evidence. I hope nothing gets planted or fabricated against her. I am just saying. Her shooting was unjustified and as her sister a former NYC cop said “deadly force was “unjustified.” Now, since an innocent woman has been killed the battle now is to justify her death and confirm it in the mind of the masses.

Oh, Miriam. I weep for you, Had you been a white woman, the masses of America would have boycotted your death. People would back your family on a case against the D.C. police. You probably would not have been killed. The circumstances would have been different. You would have been given the copout of being troubled.

This woman could have had post pregnancy depression. Yes, this exists. During and after pregnancy women go through physical and emotional changes. Not every woman adapts to these changes well. Some women get depressed. It is a condition that can become severe and change a woman emotionally and mentally. Many women go without having this condition diagnosed. Many women are also often in denial about having this condition because they do not want to be labeled as a bad mother.

Sisters of Miriam Carey, Capitol Hill shooting victim

Miriam Carey’s grieving family.

We do not know if Mariam Carey was diagnosed with post pregnancy depression. Nor, do we know if she knew she might have this condition. However, what we do know is that a sick woman got killed. An innocent child lost her mother. A saddened family is grieving. That is nothing to applaud.