Learn to lead, for you.

In life it is always best to be a leader and not a follower.

It always amazes me how women who are lonely, jaded and bitter will try to make you the same way. It always surprises me how these women will try to persuade you to make choices that could cause hardship in your relationship. This happened to me tonight.

I was at a staff dinner. We were having drinks, Great food and awkward conversation. My co worker asked me if we are going to go to a club afterwards. I ignored her, because she talks so much you do not know if to take her serious or not. Anyway, when I realized her question about attending a club after the dinner was serious, I responded no. She said ” oh just text your hubby and tell him you will be home late.” I looked at her laughed and continued to ignore her the rest of the night.

You see, I am a leader, not a follower. I lead my way towards my decisions and choices. I follow, not the path or trail of others.

I am not going to follow you to a club and just call my hubby like everything is alright. First of all, I like to give my man the courtesy of knowing what I am doing when I go out before I leave him that night. I do not like just dropping last-minute things on him like that. My relationship like any other has its parameters and my hubby and I work within them to ensure we respect each other.

Next, I am not taking relationship advice from YOU honey. Yes, for this woman’s  true intention is not to go out and hang out, but to cause a rift in my life. Your intention is to cause me problems.

Family, at the end of the day it is best to be a leader and follow your path not others. Yes, you can listen to people,but make your decisions based solely on what is beneficial for you. Make choices that will positively impact your life.

Lastly, do not allow others to make you change who you are. Do not allow people to influence who your next step.You navigate your life, NO ONE else does. Ensure, you stay true to who you are. Be a leader and follow your heart, mind soul and own path. ~Know Your Worth~ -M. Millie

Rebuke Prejudice!

I can not stand black people they are ghetto! I can not stand Jews they are cheap! I can not stand Asians they are nasty! I can not stand Latinos they are all immigrants!

Prejudice. We all are guilty of it. Why? We are victims of our background, upbringing and experiences. All we can strive to do as adults and people is break the prejudices we have with knowledge and history. Once we learn the truth about where our biases and prejudices come from, it will be easier for us to lessen these ideas.

Honestly speaking, I used to be very biased towards Jews. I did not trust them and thought all of them were out for world domination. Now, I know better. All though some of my ideas and viewpoints have not changed, I do not believe all Jews are the same. Just like I do not want to be judged as a horrid person because of the actions of other blacks.

I in no way am excusing any group for the atrocities and unjustness they have committed. Every group whether racial, ethnic, religiously, nationally etc. has committed injustices against others. EVERYONE IS GUILTY!

However, point blank, I do not believe in demonizing a race, ethnic group, or religion for the actions of the few. I feel like when you have that kind of attitude, that is when you become IGNORANT!

IGNORANCE and me do not get along. You should not get along with ignorance either and should use ever opportunity to dissolve it from your life. I strive to supply my brain and memory bank with varied information to learn, grow and understand the world around me. Close mindedness limits progression.

Do not be limited by ignorance. Also, treat people by a case by case basis. Yes, there are trends that many communities exhibit, but remember trends do not equal absolute characteristics.

All groups of people regardless of what classification they belong to should be treated according to who they are not what class they belong in.

The ERADICATION of bias is impossible. Out of the womb biased was kissed upon us by society, culture and our families. However, opening our minds to knowledge helps us understand that all of our biases are misguided and based on lack of knowledge.

Inspire yourself to change. Harboring hate, resentment and bias does not help you develop in the future. However, enlightening yourself on why these groups do or act the way they do. Educating yourself with history immersed in contemporary society builds you and helps in lessening your bias.

Who have you been biased against? WHY? What have you done to combat your prejudice for this group? Do you seek to combat your prejudice? Whats your take? -M. Millie

IT IS TIME FOR US TO LOVE OURSELVES!

We are beautiful sistahs. From the kinks in our hair, to the span in our hips to the bridge of our nose to the pout on our lips. Sistahs we are beautiful. We are beautiful, from the curve in our butts to the chocolate of our skin we are beautiful. Sistahs, society’s viewpoint of beauty is what societies viewpoint. It is not ours. We know we are beautiful. It does not matter if it is not in the magazines,we are beautiful. Love the beauty that is yours sistahs. ~Know Your Worth~ -M. Millie