She had a Baby, Congratulations! Why do you care again?

So she had a baby I do not care, why do you?

Yes, Kim Kardashian had a baby today. Congratulations to her. Having a baby is a beautiful and special gift. Social media is buzzing about this news and I understand why. She is a celebrity. She is famous, for whatever reason. However, why do we African Americans care?

The question here lies, why are black outlets,. facebook pages, and media reporting her child’s birth. Yes, I remember that she is having a baby with Kayne West. However, the focus the black community has one this non black woman is overwhelming.

Why is her life and story news for us? Why do we care? There is a black woman named Marissa Alexander who is spending 20 years in prison for a non violent offense. Why aren’t we rallying and talking about her?

The constant portrayal and discussion of  Kim Kardashian in a positive, enviable way are a continued trend of black America glorifying this white woman and other white women like her.

Beyonce had a child as a married woman. However, she was ridiculed during her pregnancy and after. There were rumors of her having a fake birth. There were rumors that she did not have the baby. There have even been rumors saying the baby is ugly. Who calls a baby ugly? SMH! That child is gorgeous.

Many of these rumors were fabricated and spread by our own community. We did not welcome Beyonce’s pregnancy or give her positive attention the way we have Kim Kardashian. Why? That is because no matter how much we love Beyonce she is not a white woman like Kim Kardashian, and many of us blacks have the indoctrinated belief and practice of worshipping non black women.

Now before, I get called a hater. I am not HATING on her. I believe that it is a talent to become rich and famous for having no talent. She is talented for she is another white woman who has played the fem fatale, oh woe is me, card to get a fan base. Yes, her privilege of whiteness has helped her of course. The blindness and promote of White America, has also helped her as well. However, she has “hob knobbed”, made connections and used publicity as a way to be one of the most popular people, today.

What bothers me is the worship. The worship of the black community of people like Kim Kardashian. She is not a black woman. She is not even someone who cares about the black struggle, besides the obvious, her spouse choices.

There are so many black woman who accomplish great feats and do so much everyday, who do not get recognized. If these women do get recognized, their stories do not get shared with the same ferocity as Kim K’s life and story. Fame is just one part of it but worship is the bigger part of it. Our admiration for Kim K overextended our pride for our people.

We black people have always focused on people outside of our community more than those inside of it. Yes, it’s that Willie Lynch, slave mentality, self-hatred combo that seems to always stifle our development.

Our worth, our being and who we are CANNOT, be mirrored against a mirror of unattainable, and undeniable self hatred. Many black women want to be this woman. They want her body. Umm, we have had Real, hips, lips, but and hair since the beginning of time. Next! We need to learn to love and appreciate who we are and those like us who have risen against all.

We need to see role models in our communities, who look like us, who come from our struggle and know what we are and are capable of as people to admire. These people do not have to necessarily be famous, There are black woman everyday, locally, who are teachers, police officers, politicians, lawyers, etc. who cultivate the contemporary accomplishments of black woman.

Lets appreciate these women. Lets remember these women, and stop the worshiping of who are not US. Lets  be proud of ourselves and proud of our people. ~Know Your Worth~ -M. Millie

 

Are you a Queen or a Bad Bitch? Your choice.

BITCH!!! Who are you calling a bitch? I am not a bitch. I am a Black Woman. I am a woman of immense worth. I am a Queen!

I have never understood why the word bitch has been used to describe women. I am not a female dog. I do not care how unreasonable or annoying I may be at the time. Calling me a female dog is the ultimate disrespect to me. Now, many women have done what many have tried to do with the N- word. Many women now have tried to change the negative meaning and connotations associated with the word bitch. They have embraced the word bitch as a positive word or compliment. They now call themselves “bad bitches.” This word is supposed to be a way of them complementing themselves. I guess “bad bitch” is supposed to mean hot or sexy.

What happened to just saying I am hot and sexy? Why are we getting the name for a female dog added to the way we compliment ourselves and each other. I am sorry to break it to you ladies, but calling yourself a bad bitch is calling yourself a bad female dog. I do not get it ladies.

I would never call myself a bad bitch. I would also never disrespect my fellow black women by calling them a bitch, or compliment them by calling them a bad bitch. It is a hateful word that has for years been used to disseminate misogyny, hate and the degradation of women. Why use a word built on so much hate to compliment yourself? Think about it ladies. it does not add up.

The adjectives, I use to describe myself are beautiful, intelligent, determined, motivated, queen who believes in herself and knows her worth.

Ladies, you deserve to be respected by all. You also need to know how to respect yourself. There are far more respectful ways for you to compliment yourself, for others to compliment you and for you to compliment others. Describe yourself the way you should be and present your beauty as one solidified on knowing you are worth respect and good treatment. -M. Millie

Rebuke Prejudice!

I can not stand black people they are ghetto! I can not stand Jews they are cheap! I can not stand Asians they are nasty! I can not stand Latinos they are all immigrants!

Prejudice. We all are guilty of it. Why? We are victims of our background, upbringing and experiences. All we can strive to do as adults and people is break the prejudices we have with knowledge and history. Once we learn the truth about where our biases and prejudices come from, it will be easier for us to lessen these ideas.

Honestly speaking, I used to be very biased towards Jews. I did not trust them and thought all of them were out for world domination. Now, I know better. All though some of my ideas and viewpoints have not changed, I do not believe all Jews are the same. Just like I do not want to be judged as a horrid person because of the actions of other blacks.

I in no way am excusing any group for the atrocities and unjustness they have committed. Every group whether racial, ethnic, religiously, nationally etc. has committed injustices against others. EVERYONE IS GUILTY!

However, point blank, I do not believe in demonizing a race, ethnic group, or religion for the actions of the few. I feel like when you have that kind of attitude, that is when you become IGNORANT!

IGNORANCE and me do not get along. You should not get along with ignorance either and should use ever opportunity to dissolve it from your life. I strive to supply my brain and memory bank with varied information to learn, grow and understand the world around me. Close mindedness limits progression.

Do not be limited by ignorance. Also, treat people by a case by case basis. Yes, there are trends that many communities exhibit, but remember trends do not equal absolute characteristics.

All groups of people regardless of what classification they belong to should be treated according to who they are not what class they belong in.

The ERADICATION of bias is impossible. Out of the womb biased was kissed upon us by society, culture and our families. However, opening our minds to knowledge helps us understand that all of our biases are misguided and based on lack of knowledge.

Inspire yourself to change. Harboring hate, resentment and bias does not help you develop in the future. However, enlightening yourself on why these groups do or act the way they do. Educating yourself with history immersed in contemporary society builds you and helps in lessening your bias.

Who have you been biased against? WHY? What have you done to combat your prejudice for this group? Do you seek to combat your prejudice? Whats your take? -M. Millie