Every woman has been a whore before. Huh!

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A woman told me today that every woman has been a whore some time in her life. I was shocked, but I asked her to explain. She stated that every woman some time in her life has given her body and her emotions to at least one man or a few men who did not deserve her jewels or affections. She stated that every woman has at a time body and heart has been played with by a man who did not cherish them or see their value.

I can agree that many women have made the mistake of being involved sexually and emotionally with a man that did not know their worth, or truly care for them. Many of us have had negative experiences with men, when we were young, naive, or inexperienced. Some of us have been betrayed, lied to, etc. However, as I told this woman, I do not think making a mistake with a man one time or a few times makes you a whore. It makes the woman trusting, naive. It makes the woman, someone who made a mistake.

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I think that a woman spreading your body around without care to who is receiving it, and what emotional, physical and mental wear doing so could do to you, makes a woman who does not have understanding of her worth and virtue. I do not believe that woman should call themselves whores. We are not whores.

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We may make mistakes in who we give our bodies and love to. We may think that our worth is encapsulated in our sex, when it is not. We may be expressing our sexual freedom and appetites. However, the degradation used with words such as whore need to stop. We need to stop giving words power to control us, and shame us. We need to pinpoint the real issues in our lives and that we experience and solve them. Before we resort to bashing others and ourselves.

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Most importantly we women, we black women need to initiate our worth, and that we deserve love and greatness from our spouses. The lesson of knowing your worth must not only be taught, but it should be learned and practiced. Once we know our worth and what we should tolerate and accept less mistakes will be made, and less tears will be shed. ~Know Your Worth~ -M. Millie

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