I never knew that pastors now dictated how we look when we come to church and how we wear our hair. SMDH! I am disgusted by Texas Minister A.J. Aamir at the Resurrecting Faith Church has told his congregation of black women that they CANNOT wear weaves. What happened to come as you are?
Yes, I am a black woman who sports natural hair. However, I have worn wigs and weaves in the past. I have also alternated during my natural hair journey with wearing added pieces every now and then. I definitely rock braids and twists as protective styles as well. I guess I would not be allowed in his church.
While, I have met many black woman and know some personally who wear weaves because they do not believe in the beauty of their natural hair texture, that is NOT true for all black women who wear weaves.
As someone said earlier why must our hair be used as a battlefield to oppress us and divide us. Other groups of women wear weaves, but are not persecuted the way black women are. We like any other group of women should be able to wear our hair anyway we want and switch it up whenever we see fit. We too are versatile.
Yes, weaves are not for me. That is my personal preference. I like my natural hair. However, weaves are for some black women and that is their personal preference. Weaves or the lack thereof does not make or define a black woman. Just like twists or my natural hair do not define me. We are not our hair.
There are many sistahs with natural hair and a processed mind, as well as many sistahs with processed hair and a natural mind.
Yes, our hair is our style and is often times an extension of who we are. However, our hair does not make up our personality and should not warrant us to be mistreated because of our preference.
This is the way it should be. Yet, it is not realistic. We will be judged by our hair, the same way we are judged by our clothes and the way we speak. We automatically judge people upon our initial encounter with them. It is natural it is an instinct.
Despite that we do not need to criticize and demonize each other. That is the difference. People need to stop demonizing black women for their hair. We already get it in the media, in magazines, etc. However, it hurts so much when it comes from our own people. We often times set up the parameters for our oppression and bondage. We contribute to many of the strategies that have been used to devastate us by performing these same practices. We black women have to proactively come together and empower each other more, and stop battling over hair, complexion and the other things placed before us to oppress us.
It is sad. As a black man Pastor A.J. Aamir should strive his best to elevate his church, with positivity. Not, criticize their hair choice and then attack their character. Our ascending is often hindered by our inability to educate, enlighten and help each other. He should motivate the black women in his church, not add to the attacks on their self-esteem they get daily from everywhere else. Many of us are too busy worrying about judging, attacking and hurting each other. This is a practice that needs to stop.
Read more about this pastor here http://www.americapreachers.com/speak-out/pastor-says-no-to-women-wearing-weaves-in-church/